Boundaries: Chpt. 2 -What Does a Boundary Look Like?

Wow, this chapter is very full. No way to summarize it. So many amazing, thought-provoking points. You gotta read this book!

Really take a few moments as you read and let these quotes sink in. They are meaty.

• "...boundaries define your soul, and they help you to guard it and maintain it."

• "Boundaries define us. They define what is me and what is not me."

• "Boundaries are not walls."

• "Making decisions based on others' approval or on guilt breeds resentment."

• "Feelings should neither be ignored nor placed in charge."

• "Your feelings are your responsibility and you must own them and see them as your problem so you can begin to find an answer to whatever issue they are pointing to.

• "To rescue people from the natural consequences of their behavior is to render them powerless."

• "...setting internal limits. We need to have spaces inside ourselves where we can have a feeling, an impulse, or a desire, without acting it out. We need self-control...we need to be able to say no to ourselves."

• "Our ability to give and respond to love is our greatest gift."

• "Many people have difficulty giving and receiving love because of hurt and fear. Having closed their hearts to others they feel empty and meaningless."

• "Many people do not take ownership for how they resist love."

See what I mean? Deep, thought-provoking stuff. If any of these things jump out at you, the book really goes into much greater detail on each of these points and so many more.

Stay tuned...up next is Boundary Problems in Chpt. 3. Don't fret, we'll get to the bottom of them and onto the practical "how to" (have healthy boundaries) soon!